thisishyde-deactivated20111030 said: How do you hold on strongly if you know it won't be three years til you meet? I need support so bad right now...
That is an incredibly difficult spot to be in and I do not envy you at all. But I remember being in your shoes. I know it seems daunting and impossible, but looking back on my situation: I am so glad that I held out for him.
Callum and I knew each other for about three years before we had our first visit. And those three years were both incredibly difficult and rewarding. Obviously being apart was terribly painful. But the time that we spent really getting to know one another has made us such an above averagely strong couple.
I’m not sure of your specific situation: if you’re an official couple right now or you’ve just fallen hard. Three years is a very long time and a lot of things can change. If you’re sure that what the two of you have is special, then keep nurturing whatever relationship that you have now. But do not put your life on hold. This type of relationship is an incredibly risk. I would be the last person to doubt that you have found love without meeting face to face, because it happened to me. But don’t let yourself miss out on experiences that will enrich your life. My boyfriend and I were only an official couple for the last year before we met. I can not even imagine how hard it would have been to be his girlfriend and have to wait three years to meet him! What you are doing is a true testament to your love.
My advice to you is to let things happen as they will. Take it one day at a time and focus on the parts that make you happy. I believe that when people are meant to be together that they will be. But that doesn’t mean that the road to being together doesn’t have some bumps! I wish you lots of luck. If you ever need to talk, don’t hesitate. I’d be happy to message your privately if you ever need advice or to rant. :)
Anonymous said: Your guys' story makes me truly believe in long distance relationships.
I was wondering if I could get your advice, but I don't want it showing up on here. Is there any other way to contact you?
If you want to message me non-Anon, I’d be more than happy to reply to you privately. Promise I won’t judge!